Understanding What Love Really Is. And How Love Works.

Majority of the people living thinking that love is only a noun which equivalent to love is a feeling. The perception of love as such that a relationship is going to work solely determined by how intense feeling of love is presented in a relationship, has lead us to the illusion of an ideal or sometimes unrealistic romantic relationship. But what if I tell you that love is also a verb. Love is more than just a mere feeling but also it is also an act of service, affection, respect, communication, honesty and anything else that could bring the relationship to another level.

Let’s get back to why I have mention that we have created our own illusion of an ideal/unrealistic romantic relationship. You see most people think that they are truly in love when the intensity of the relationship is lighting up bright and when it slowly fade away they thought that the relationship is ending (This kind of situation might happen after 3-5 years or maybe just a few month in).

And this is the problem, we have an ideal in our mind that we wake up in the morning thinking about that special someone and boom the feeling start to arise. But then after sometimes that doesn’t happen anymore and even worst you are already committed in the relationship. Then you started to think of a way out, the beginning of why relationship collapse.

Before you make any further decision, let me convince you that when you don’t feel that love anymore, you have to love more. Let me explain by providing you two scenarios. First scenario: Let’s say one day you got a puppy, after a few days taking care of this puppy out of a blue the puppy stop breathing and die because of certain condition. And you are shock, you might shed some tears or might not and felt pity for the little puppy. And after a few day you can move on easily.

 

Second scenario: Let’s say you have a dog that you have committed taking care of since it was a little puppy and now it has grown up. There is day you might felt annoyed by the dog because he messed up you house destroying your shoes, sofa, books and etc. But still you keep your promise to commit in taking care of the dog. And one day the dog ran out of your house and accidentally hits by a car and he perish instantly. I am certain that you will be screaming out of your lungs and cried the hell out and a gush of sorrow will hits you so badly.

As we can see in both scenario, there is feeling of pain in the end. But the intensity of pain was a big different. Scenario 2 is way more painful than Scenario 1. Why? Because you have been loving your dog by committing your time and effort, taking good care of it and nurtured it since it was still a small little puppy. The years of service and care you put into the dog have deposited into your feelings day by day.

In that sense you get the feeling and intensity of love in return when you loving someone. When one day you choose to love someone, keep remind yourself that even there is days your partner will be at her worst, annoyed you or even the feeling you have towards her are fading, never stop showering her with affection and care. When you love her fully, you will feel the love in return, the feeling will remain and even better it will expand.

I would like to end this article with a quote:

“You can’t get apple without nurturing the apple tree. 

You can’t feel the love without nurturing the one you love.” - Your Friend

Wish you good luck with your future endeavor.